In His Own Words
About him
Not sure that online dating is the best way of meeting somebody. The process is more like a job application than 'love at first sight' but what do you think? Have you had much luck?
There is something called ‘the paradox of choice’. Perceived surplus of potential mates leads to lack of respect for responses, you take responses for granted, go on short term dates (because there is always someone better) and then you decide it’s all a waste of time and online dating is not for you. Sound familiar?
According to Wikipedia (so it must be true🙂) men are more inclined to swipe or match impulsively and women are far more selective. Men will message 7% of their matches and women 21%. Women will initially message with an average of 122 characters and men just 12.
If men send a ‘positively worded’ message [whatever that means], they are more likely to get a poorer response. In fact the response from women after a man had initiated contact was about 21%. For men after a woman had sent them a message, they would respond something like 80% of the time. Carefully constructed and crafted long messages make no difference to response rates.
Most people will use the site to seek their perfect ideal (at first anyway) rather than a realist option. 80% of women will pursue just 20% of the available males.
Why does all this matter? Partly because I think that sexual dynamics are interesting- don't you? And partly because I wanted my advert - sorry profile - to be memorable. It doesn't matter if you agree with it or not, it just needs to stand out from the background noise, cliches and glib sloganeering of everybody else.
So my strategy for finding a partner, is to appeal to one of the 20% women mentioned above, see if they have the attention span to read a few technical paragraphs, are attracted by the unconventional and finally, can think for themselves. Well done you, I think we’ll get on fine🙂
About his ideal match
Some years ago I was sitting at a table with a group of women. As seems customary the women started slagging off men and in particular their husbands and partners. All, apart from one woman who was noticeably quiet. Eventually she was asked for her thoughts. She said she loved her husband. She missed him all the time when he wasn’t there, and she wished he was with her now. I can remember it even now. The table went quiet as the women digested what she had said.
That’s the kind of woman I’m looking for. And I know one or two. Not many. They are very rare.
So, basically, I’m looking for a partner who is kind, considerate, who loves, who shares, who cares. And is treated with kindness, consideration, love, care and sharing in return.
These values are mocked and derided today. But that is exactly why people are so unhappy and lonely. The Internet in particular has made things much worse.
Anyway, thats my thoughts. Take them or leave as you wish.
Back to more mundane matters.
I'm very interested in current affairs. My politics would be described as on the same page as Reform.
I enjoy scuba diving, archery, fishing, kayaking and just being outdoors. But I also like simple pleasures like watching a film or a pub quiz. I love dogs, especially Golden Retrievers. I work full time in the medical field.
I am presently living fairly comfortably in a converted van while I decide what direction my life should take.
Somebody said I should list my likes and dislikes, so here goes (for starters):
Likes - I appreciate beautiful, handmade things. I like books, nature, 80s /90s music, octopuses, YouTube and visiting craft and art centres. I collect old tools and old Ladybird books. I love history, reading, socialising, anything off-grid related, giving massages.
Dislikes - aggression, bad manners, excessive materialism, computers (I am aware of the irony), people who follow the flock.
I'm not claiming to be anything special, but if anything I have written strikes a chord, get in touch. I don't bite - honestly.
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About him
Country of origin: |
United Kingdom | |
Location: |
Newton Abbot, Devon, England | |
Gender: |
Male | |
Age: |
65 | |
Star sign: |
Aries | |
Height: |
6' 0" (183cm) | |
Body type: |
Average | |
Looks: |
Average | |
Hair colour: |
Greying | |
Eye colour: |
Brown | |
Relationship Status: |
Divorced | |
Looking for: |
Let's see what happens | |
Have children: |
Yes, not living with me | |
Want children: |
No | |
Daily diet: |
Eat most things | |
Smoking: |
Never | |
Drinking: |
Occasionally | |
Education: |
University | |
Occupation: |
Medical / Dental / Veterinary | |
Income: |
Enough | |
Ethnicity: |
White/Caucasian | |
Home language: |
English | |
Other languages: |
Ask me later | |
Religion: |
Christian / Protestant |
About his ideal match
Country of origin: |
Anywhere in the World | ||
Location: |
Within 40 miles of postcode district TQ12 (Newton Abbot) | ||
Gender: |
Female | ||
Age range: |
60 - 66 | ||
Star sign: |
Any | ||
Height: |
Any | ||
Body type: |
Slim; Average; Athletic; Curvaceous | ||
Looks: |
Any | ||
Hair colour: |
Any | ||
Eye colour: |
Any | ||
Has a photo: |
Decidedly important | ||
Relationship Status: |
Single; Separated; Divorced; Widowed | ||
Have children: |
No; Yes, not living with me; Yes, living with me sometimes | ||
Want children: |
No | ||
Daily diet: |
Eat most things; Eat healthily; Kosher | ||
Smoking: |
Never | ||
Drinking: |
Never; Occasionally; Several times a week | ||
Education: |
Any | ||
Occupation: |
Any | ||
Income: |
Solvent; Enough; Comfortable | ||
Ethnicity: |
Black/African descent; Indian; White/Caucasian; Mixed; Black/Caribbean descent | ||
Home language: |
English | ||
Other languages: |
Any | ||
Religion: |
Any |
- Not important at all
- Slightly important
- Moderately important
- Decidedly important
- Non-negotiable
More about him
Sense of humour: |
Light-hearted |
Intelligence: |
Intelligent |
Ruled by: |
The head |
Party behaviour: |
An average mingler |
Personality traits: |
Adventurous; Daring; Easygoing; Faithful; Generous; Happy; Independent; Intelligent; Loving; Loyal; Outspoken; Philosophical; Quiet; Realistic; Sensible; Stable; Thoughtful; Trustworthy |
Valued qualities: |
Chemistry; Compassion; Contentment; Faithfulness; Forgiveness; Friendliness; Honesty; Humility; Humour; Kindness; Moderation; Patience |
Fashion sense: |
Outdoorsy (I'm usually dressed for the bush) |
Favourite clothing: |
Shorts & a T-shirt |
Hair style: |
Disappearing |
Eyesight: |
I wear glasses |
Facial hair: |
I have a goatee |
Body hair: |
Smooth |
Body art: |
I don't have any |
Date activities: |
A movie; Dinner at a restaurant; Meeting for coffee; Meeting for drinks; Going for a walk; Visiting a gallery; Going to a museum |
Music preferences: |
Classical; Country & Western; Dance / Disco |
Reading: |
I read books regularly; I read newspapers regularly |
Books: |
History; Non-fiction; Science / Technology |
TV habits: |
I don't have a television |
Movie frequency: |
Occasionally or irregularly |
Movie preferences: |
Action; Comedy; Documentary; Drama; Sci-Fi |
Interests: |
Auto repair; Business news; Internet; Politics; Reading; Woodwork |
Sport involvement: |
An active participant |
Sports: |
Archery; Camping; Canoeing; Chess; Fishing; Hiking; Pool; Running; Scuba diving; Snorkeling |
Cooking: |
I cook rather than starve |
Food: |
Doesn't matter |
Go Out to Eat: |
I eat out a few times a month |
Dietary Restrictions: |
I have none |
Pace of Life: |
Organised |
Time at work: |
I work a standard 40 hour week |
Pastimes of choice: |
Pursuing a hobby |
Time online: |
I'm on for an hour or two a day |
Family size: |
I've got a brother |
Family contact: |
I rarely see them |
Relationship Type: |
I'm just plain single |
Willing to Relocate: |
I'm flexible |
Animals: |
I like animals |
Pets (Like): |
Bird(s); Dog(s); Exotic pet(s); Fish; Rodent(s); Other; Horse(s) |
Turn-ons: |
Dancing; Erotica; Flirting; Intelligence; Long hair; Showing affection in public; Skinny dipping; Thrill seeking |
Turn-offs: |
Assertiveness; Body piercing(s); Sarcasm; Tattoo(s) |
Work aspirations: |
I already have my ideal job |
Religious attendance: |
Rarely |
Dream home: |
Eco home in the countryside |
Politics: |
Right of centre |
Retirement plans: |
Finally writing that novel |
Feelings about using Nation Singles: |
Curious |
Honesty: |
Extremely |